The Sleepover Dilemma

My husband and I have had long conversations about what we will do when our children start getting asked to sleep over. One part of me wants them to be able to experience this side of growing up and another part of me screams NO for all the reasons you might imagine. I do not want my children to be seen differently by their peers because of our worries/concerns, but I honestly don’t think I can send my children into someone’s home and be one hundred percent okay with that decision. My oldest is going into first grade so I know that we will have to put a “policy” in place when it comes to sleepovers. 

So here are my thoughts…..

 My oldest son has come home from kindergarten knowing WAY more than I would have thought he would have learned.. and not in a good way. It has been brought it to my attention (something that I already knew, but didn’t think we would have to deal with so early) that not everyone parents the same. Don’t get me wrong, that’s perfectly OKAY, but that doesn’t mean I want my children around it. He has come home talking about movies and shows I would prefer him not know about. What will happen when he goes to this friends house? I certainly do not want him seeing/hearing these things. I know I cannot shield him from everything, but there are somethings I would like for him to wait to learn. 

 Our world just isn’t what it used to be. It isn’t all bad, but I do think it makes parents more aware of things going on, and parents are more cautious about where they send their children. We all see the statics of children effected by molestation, injured because of guns not being properly secured, and many more scary situations. I know that sleep overs will not eliminate the possibilities that these things may happen, but because of this, my husband and I will be cautious of where our children will be spending their time. 

As of now my oldest loves the idea of a sleepover, but when it comes down to it, he doesn’t want to go. Having a general no sleepovers policy helps take the pressure off of him having to say he doesn’t feel comfortable with it. Once my children are older we will make exceptions to the rule for certain friend groups, but having a general rule in place helps with the random sleep overs and the uncomfortable situations that they may bring. 

It is my job to keep my children safe. We go out of our way to make sure a new mom knows car seat safety, crib safety, and all the “right” ways to feed their baby. Yet, once they get older and we still try to protect them, we become “over-bearing or helicopter parents”. I know not everyone will agree with our thoughts and approach to this, but we will limit our child’s sleepovers to grandparents houses as of now.

Do you have any “sleepover” rules?

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