The Nap Time Cycle
Nap times are glorious.
Even better: two naps. If your child takes two naps, give that baby a kiss.
It is all kind of short lived because, eventually and suddenly those two naps a day start to fade, and then, one glorious nap just drops away. Poof.
You’re a bit perplexed, but you manage to arrange your day around the spontaneous nap dropping thing and then it happens: two naps merge to one.
This one nap, it’s longer and that’s cool. You rearrange your schedule. Now you’re at home for a large chunk of the day, but that’s ok. It all works out-you like the one long nap now and everything is rosy.
But then something happens and that long nap starts shrinking. All the sudden you’re a crazy person trying to get your kid to nap for less time than it took you to get them to take the nap in the first place. You remember those glory days of naps gone bye and you want them back, even for a fleeting moment, just a taste to get you through the day.
You work for an hour to get 20 minutes of nap. But you still do it because that 20 minutes is so golden that you do whatever it takes to get there. Even if that means driving around in the car, pushing a stroller or lying on the floor of your child’s room. You do it. Just when you’re at your wits end and think you cannot do it anymore, you don’t have to.
Because, the sad day comes when those attempts to put the baby to the down for a nap are in vain. It’s a total waste of time. Because there is no nap. You may be able to hold on to ‘quiet time’ where you give the child an iPad and quickly jump in the shower, but, it is short lived too, just like that shower and the thought of blowdrying your hair.
And so, naps cease. They stop. They do not exist. Except when child is at school (umm what?!!) or in the car- conveniently soundly sleeping as you pull up at your destination.
No more naps means no more free time for mom during the day. And so, you begin to relish in those early bedtimes and all is well again. Until it’s not.
Because now the child is waking up at night and coming into your room. Every. Single. Night. And you persevere for a long time, waking yourself up, putting the baby back in their bed, going back to bed… You do this multiple times a night, multiple times in the week, which add up to multiple times in the month.
Until, finally, one day, you make a pallet on the ground. And you don’t give a care anymore if the baby comes in as long as they don’t wake you up.
Now you’re the one who needs a nap. But you can’t take a nap because who would watch the kids? Because, they’re certainly not napping.
And the cycle continues until forever. The end.