January is always filled with lists of what people hope to achieve in the following 12 months. Resolutions for the New Year, promises to do more and be better than the year before. Those lists usually include adding new or improved habits, increasing physical activity, living life with more purpose. For 2017, instead of adding more to life or adding more to the to-do list, I’m going to focus on what I can remove. What can I do less of, what can I stop worrying about? This year, I’m not making a list of New Year’s Resolutions, I’m not creating another to-do list. I’m making a not-to-do list.
- I’m not working out ___ times per week
I enjoy physical activity, and I like how I feel in my own body when regular physical activity is a part of my schedule. I don’t like the feeling of self-imposed guilt if I only work out twice in a week versus the minimum three times a week “everyone” says you are supposed to work out. I will continue to make time in my schedule for moving my body and getting my heart rate up because I enjoy it, but I’m not going to feel bad if I don’t complete a certain number of workouts per week.
- I will stop comparing my living room to Pinterest-perfect photos
I love scrolling Pinterest and other social media sites to look at perfectly decorated, clean, not-a-toy-in-site homes. Those are not my homes, and I will stop expecting my home to look a certain way. Sure, I would love my living room to be fully decorated, spotless and without a single toy left on the floor, but that’s not my reality. My reality is the living room serves as the playroom and for the foreseeable future there are going to be toys on the floor. The gallery wall of family photos is half-filled with empty frames because I haven’t gotten around to printing updated photos. And that’s ok. Pinterest is fun for looking at inspirational images, but it’s not my current reality, and my reality is just fine the way it is. Empty picture frames and all. Maybe when the kids move out I will have that Pinterest-perfect living room. Maybe.
- I won’t feel bad for taking time for ME
The ultimate feelings of mom guilt always seem to pop up when I take time to do something just for myself that benefits no one else but me. Even sitting with my feet in a spa tub, with my back being massaged by an automatic chair, I’m almost unable to enjoy getting a pedicure because in the back of my head are running those nagging thoughts of mom guilt. I could be spending this time playing with my son. The cost of this pedicure I could put into his college fund. It’s boot season, no one is going to see my feet anyways, why am I wasting my time and money? No.No.NO.
Me time is important because it makes me a better mom. Having quiet time by myself with no little arms tugging on my body and no one asking what is for dinner, is what I need to be a good mom. And having feet that don’t scratch against the bedsheets is something we all deserve.
Some other non-resolutions may pop up as the year continues, but this is my list to start with. Anyone else have a list of things they won’t do this year? Let me know in the comments!